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Saturday, January 18, 2014

One step further....

I took my Core Desire Feelings (CDF) one step further.  I took the words and broke them down more into  the meanings that resonate with me and what I am trying to accomplish, or  FEELINGS I want to feel.  Once again, here's my list:

The picture I choose has just as much meaning as the the words. For the past few years, as much as I love the beach, I've had a feeling of being under water... sometimes, drowning ... I am planning and hoping that as I go along this part of the journey, I will break through the surface and into the light again!

 alive ~ being animately exisent; being active, full of life; awake ~ conscious, alert

peaceful ~ friendly, serene, tranquil, quiet, calm

focused ~ aim attention at; concentrate; attract; think about closely, gather, collect

creative ~ artistic, imaginative; productive, constructive, rewarding

excited ~ inspired; delighted, enthusiastic, passionate

joyful ~ happy; upbeat, pleasurable, cheerful


For me, I think working on being alive is my first CDF that encompasses all that I want to be and to work on.  It has to do allot more with my health than I would think and I think after that, once I get a grip on that, everything will fall into place.  I have an appointment with a new doctor on Tuesday and that's my start...

I started my day by listening to the audio of Start the New You Now! and think I will listen to it every morning until it all completely sinks in... or I become more focused!  It's subject is: Desire Mapping for Your Heart and Soul.

Once again if you desire more, you can find Danielle LaPorte on Facebook here. 
 

Friday, January 17, 2014

taking a journey into the 'known'...

The Desire Map, Danielle LaPorte, page 157:

Take a journey into the things which you are carrying, the known --
not into the unknown -- into what you already know;
your pleasures, your delights, your despairs, your sorrows.
Take a journey into that, that is all you have.
-- Jiddu Krishnamurti

Makes sense to me.  Unless I look at what I have, how do I know what I want and/or don't want.  How do I get there unless I figure out what feels good or not.  At least then if I'm not sure I recognize it, I'll recognize the feeling!


Three questions:
  1. What would happen if we made all our decisions based on feeling good?  What does "feeling good" mean to you?
  2. Why do you think we push away good feelings?
  3. If we believed our joy would change the world, what would we do differently?


Thursday, January 16, 2014

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO FEEL?

How many times has someone asked you how you're feeling and the answer was a simple, OK?  But 'OK' is not a feeling.  Have you even said to a child, "use your words"?  It all starts with words.  Are you ready to explore how you feel vs.  how you want to feel?

#TheDesireMap
The picture I choose has just as much meaning as the the words.  For the past few years, as much as I love the beach, I've had a feeling of being under water... sometimes, drowning ... I am planing and hoping that as I go along this part of the journey, I will break through the surface and into the light again!

Positive Feelings:




OPEN
HAPPY
ALIVE
GOOD
understanding
great
playful
calm
confident
gay
courageous
peaceful
reliable
joyous
energetic
at ease
easy
lucky
liberated
comfortable
amazed
fortunate
optimistic
pleased
free
delighted
provocative
encouraged
sympathetic
overjoyed
impulsive
clever
interested
gleeful
free
surprised
satisfied
thankful
frisky
content
receptive
important
animated
quiet
accepting
festive
spirited
certain
kind
ecstatic
thrilled
relaxed
satisfied
wonderful
serene
glad
free and easy
cheerful
bright
sunny
blessed
merry
reassured
elated
jubilant

LOVE
INTERESTED
POSITIVE
STRONG
loving
concerned
eager
impulsive
considerate
affected
keen
free
affectionate
fascinated
earnest
sure
sensitive
intrigued
intent
certain
tender
absorbed
anxious
rebellious
devoted
inquisitive
inspired
unique
attracted
nosy
determined
dynamic
passionate
snoopy
excited
tenacious
admiration
engrossed
enthusiastic
hardy
warm
curious
bold
secure
touched
brave
sympathy
daring
close
challenged
loved
optimistic
comforted
re-enforced
drawn toward
confident
hopeful

Difficult/Unpleasant Feelings
ANGRY
DEPRESSED
CONFUSED
HELPLESS
irritated
lousy
upset
incapable
enraged
disappointed
doubtful
alone
hostile
discouraged
uncertain
paralyzed
insulting
ashamed
indecisive
fatigued
sore
powerless
perplexed
useless
annoyed
diminished
embarrassed
inferior
upset
guilty
hesitant
vulnerable
hateful
dissatisfied
shy
empty
unpleasant
miserable
stupefied
forced
offensive
detestable
disillusioned
hesitant
bitter
repugnant
unbelieving
despair
aggressive
despicable
skeptical
frustrated
resentful
disgusting
distrustful
distressed
inflamed
abominable
misgiving
woeful
provoked
terrible
lost
pathetic
incensed
in despair
unsure
tragic
infuriated
sulky
uneasy
in a stew
cross
bad
pessimistic
dominated
worked up
a sense of loss
tense
boiling
fuming
indignant

INDIFFERENT
AFRAID
HURT
SAD
insensitive
fearful
crushed
tearful
dull
terrified
tormented
sorrowful
nonchalant
suspicious
deprived
pained
neutral
anxious
pained
grief
reserved
alarmed
tortured
anguish
weary
panic
dejected
desolate
bored
nervous
rejected
desperate
preoccupied
scared
injured
pessimistic
cold
worried
offended
unhappy
disinterested
frightened
afflicted
lonely
lifeless
timid
aching
grieved
shaky
victimized
mournful
restless
heartbroken
dismayed
doubtful
agonized
threatened
appalled
cowardly
humiliated
quaking
wronged
menaced
alienated
wary

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

It starts with a feeling...

It all starts with a feeling.  What do I want to feel?  How do I want to feel and how can I get that feeling?
We always seem to be waiting for something, someone, someplace to make us fell "something" but what?  What if it is already inside of us waiting to bust out, for us to release it and feel it?


The message is that everything we do, we do to feel a certain way.  But did you grow up with out the freedom to express and feel your feelings? 
Where you told, "you shouldn't feel that way!  There's nothing to be afraid of!  It's all going to be OK."  ??
There is a pretty good list of feelings, good and bad, here.  So as I develop my core desires I battle with words.  I've stuffed feelings for so long that I am not clear on them.  So that is my first lesson.  I remember being told that feelings aren't right or wrong, they just are.   Obviously I want to feel good.  I want to feel good about myself, my surroundings, my circumstances and my accomplishments.  

So this is my GOAL,  my RESOLUTION for 2014... taking a journey with The Desire Map.

I have my book, my workbook and my 2014 Desire Map Planner.  

My first goals as I go along are for repairs and up dates to my home, and my health.  Yes repairs and up-dates to my health!  I need different medical advice than I have been given and I can no longer go on with that program... everything is going in a new direction this year!

I hope you'll check it out and perhaps join me... maybe even join the largest Book Club!  You can find more information HERE.


Saturday, January 4, 2014

The FIRST Weekend of the NEW YEAR ~ 2014!

This is the FIRST weekend of the NEW YEAR!!  And I am happy and excited about it!




This started off as a little sharing of excitement to get off the ground in 2014, on my FaceBook page, and it kept growing!

The OLD year was ending with some sour notes but the NEW year began with friends, family and better notes :)  I am determined that the sour notes won't stick and for every negative there is a positive...even if I have to dig a little deeper to find it.  I will be sharing every positive post that inspires me and hopefully they will inspire you too.

So, are you planning anything for 2014?  I am not making resolutions, per se, but I'm mapping out a journey that suits me and will bring me peace, happiness, joy and better health!

Going forward there are always DECISIONS to make and actions to take.  These will be measured by what is best for ME, what makes ME feel good... and the same with my time.  In a sense, better time management and with better allocation of it.  Questions I have begun to ask myself is: is it worth it? will it be worth it in the long run? does it help me get to the next phase of the journey?  is it appreciated?

I need to work on ACCEPTANCE.  Sometimes, no matter how I try, the words I say are not met favorably but I am coming to believe the resistance is actually to keep a status quo.  It seems to be a conflict of interests, a regression and complete opposite of what is said.  Some people just live in the past because that is where they are most comfortable.
In other ways, I need to accept {still} what I can and can not do and accept the help that is offered.  That is harder for me than I realized because I was always and used to being the one to help, and now need to be able to accept help.  And I will keep repeating the SERENITY PRAYER.

I am starting off the new year with a few books to READ!  I am determined to read more AND set time aside for it!  When it comes to sitting down and reading,  I still love to hold the real thing in my hands and feel and turn the pages... and good ones, I can not part with!!  I love and keep my books which is very hard when using the library!!
I did check out from the Library, 2 books by Dr. Peter J. D'Adamo; Cook Right 4 Your Type and Eat Right 4 Your Type.  They are based on the 4 blood types and what is better for your health and weight (loss).  I am not going to go into my refrigerator and pantry and throw out every last thing that is not good for me, but, I will shop with a list, {which I am making and keeping in my purse} to replace with things, as I need to, that are better for me.  I am definitely not ready to give up coffee and/or milk and all dairy products either! 
I bought a copy of  Second firsts ~Live, Laugh, and Love Again~ by Christina Rasmussen.  I've been following her Facebook page for a while and she offers some very powerful and positive posts, but it wasn't until I dug a little deeper that I realized that this isn't just for someone who lost a loved one... not that I haven't, but it is about starting over, and that's what I am doing... at least trying to.
I also bought a copy of  Etched in Sand ~A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island~ by Regina Calcaterra.  It takes place on Long Island, New York, which is where I am from.  But it is about a woman who over comes such adversity.  I love books about woman who over come, who are strong, who are not only survivors but examples of perseverance "in the face of adversity".
Last but not least, I have a series of books written by Joan Anderson.  There are 5 or 6, I don't remember at this point.  I read the first one and half of the second... It is time to dust those off my shelf and bring them out to be read.  I'd explain them to you as:  Empty Nester, seeks where and what am I doing with the rest of my life... on the beach of Cape Cod.

So there is the FEW!  But I have to give up some Facebook time to "read".  Oh yes, ONE MORE:
This is a yearly planner for matching your soul to your to-do list.
Your daily to-do’s are supported by your core desired feelings and inner declarations.
Inspirational quotes, week at a glance — room for your whole life. 2014, look out!
Only available on DanielleLaPorte.com. Limited quantities available...
you can see it on my page.  I didn't get it yet, but can't wait for it to arrive!  I used to be better at it; my Planner was my life, my appointments, my dairy...I'm hoping this one gets me back on track, and not so scattered!  There also other books and a workbook (I may have to get.) available too.
That's it for now on the books and reading list!  In addition to the planner, I also purchased a desk blotter calendar BUT I'm going to hang it on the wall.  I'm finding, regular wall calendars are too small and confining and on a desk it gets lost under the paper work... so on the wall it will go.

I am hoping to get better organized, mentally and physically including my surroundings and plans.  I have a habit of biting off more than I can chew and becoming overwhelmed - then discouraged - unable to focus and then I just shut down.  Very bad pattern, so I'm going to try to come up with new patterns to avoid that one... which brings me to FOCUS..FOCUS..FOCUS.  That is why I spent the money and I am hoping my new planner will help me develop that focus and structure.  One of the side effects of not having a "job" or being retired, is you are on Island Time 24/7.  Usually you are on Island Time for a limited amount of time, for example: a vacation, and that is real good at recharging your batteries...but not forever.  Or not forever for me...I need a little bit more structure for myself...I am missing a routine.

 My NUMBER ONE PRIORITY, right now, now that the holidays are over is to find a new DOCTOR!  For those of that have followed me, you know I bitch and moan sometimes about being in pain and unable to do things sometimes.  This has been going on, off and on, all my life but under control for the most part.  The past five or so years, things have progressively gotten worse to the point where it is extremely difficult to walk... and to sleep.  Any one who has ever been in pain, no less for a period of time, will tell you that it does a number to you.  You become sedentary, which is the complete opposite of what I want to be!  I live in a place that is very conducive to being mobile...I am dying to walk the beach again!  Would love to take walks with my dog... that's why I got her, so we could take walks and I could get exercise!  But just to do what I absolutely have to is more than enough for me on most days.... I have become depressed ... some days I know are not good days to talk to even family because I don't like myself.   SO I am on a doctor hunt!  I'm not looking for heavy drugs or surgery but to be able to enjoy a quality of life.  We all deserve that much.

LAST BUT NOT LEAST:  Painting, painting, painting!  I have started the new year with a new mind-set for my paintings.  I am sticking with my beaches but looking at adding  "positive" sayings, phrases, and directional poles.  I have put my Etsy Shop on vacation to add more to it and I'm working on shipping prices.  I'd love to offer free shipping forever but that doesn't work if I want my prices to stay as low as possible so I am working on that...maybe some kind of happy medium.  I have allot of signs to add to the shop but it's been so cloudy that my pictures aren't showing off how they really look...until you get them!  I'm waiting for a sunny day!  I have a couple of sketch books of different ideas too.  I look forward to sharing some new work this year.

So my friends, this is my plan... what's yours?   I'd love to hear from you.  Did I give you any ideas?  Maybe you could share yours and give me some ideas too!  Let's make 2014 the best year yet!!